How, oh how, does this shiny little muffin turn 10 next month? This photo is from the weekend before I went back to work. These days, there’s pouting about homework and Minecraft, but really never about my needing to work. Will is proud of what I do, which is just the best feeling. Speaking of, 🎉🎉🎉three events coming up: 💛
BROOKLYN * JUNE 6 * 7pm
@storiesbk Stories Bookshop + Storytelling Lab is hosting Stories After Bedtime discussion with me and @mindrnyc’s brilliant @sarahluxlee. It’s free (!) but please register on Stories’ Facebook events page. 💛
LONG ISLAND CITY * JUNE 9 * 9:30am
The LIC community of moms is hosting a babies-welcome Saturday morning talk/workshop. For details and tickets, please see my @thefifthtrimester Facebook page. 💛
WASHINGTON, DC * JUNE 15 * 7pm
@the.wing is hosting a special nighttime #thefifthtrimester event!! I’ll be in conversation with journalist Julianna Goldman Gottlieb (and then racing home that night for Will’s bday the next day!). Technically, it’s for Wing members only, but message me if you’re interested and I’ll try to bring some guests! 😘
Happy first day back to Jessica @borowick, one of the most genuine, thoughtful women I know. Her #fifthtrimesterbaby Leo (slide 2) is a lucky, lucky guy. Epic 📸 of Jessica with her first son Phoenix is by @mborowick (and yes, she caught a fish). #normalizebreastfeeding #thefifthtrimester #workingmom #endofmaternityleave #badass
Lots of upcoming #thefifthtrimester events in Manhattan, Brooklyn, and (that 6th NY borough) Washington, DC. Details and dates coming, but first up:
BROOKLYN: *💛* STORIES AFTER BEDTIME at Stories Bookshop + Storytelling Lab @storiesbk. I’ll be talking life beyond baby with @mindrnyc’s @sarahluxlee! (Aka: my work wife) JUNE 6, 7pm FREE (please register on the bookshop’s Facebook page) *💛*
(📸 @miaohpics )
Been on a really great book binge lately. Here’s the mother’s lens guide to... *💛* @clemantine1’s must-read memoir #GirlWhoSmiledBeads: Sisters run and run and run from Rwanda’s genocide. It’s horrifying and necessary and beautiful reading as Clemantine realizes how mothered she is, every step of the way, by her fierce big sister. *💛* At first glance, @britrbennett’s exquisitely crafted novel #TheMothers seems to be about the years-long emotional fallout of an abortion. But it’s so much more. It’s about a mother’s dream deferred. *💛* I read @sallykohn’s nonfiction #TheOppositeofHate like it was those chewy delicious vitamins your toddler begs for: In doses I needed daily as news of school shootings and Israeli/Palestinian conflict unfolded. We all want to belong, we all feel the threat of being “other.” Understand our common humanity, pass that on to your kids, and maybe just maybe we can vaccinate the world from hate, says Sally. I believe her. *💛* @tayari had me at the mention of my hometown Atlanta’s #BigChicken in #AnAmericanMarriage. But she kept me with the unspooling, intimate tale of a tragically stunted marriage. It’s not a story about the great hope of parenthood, but about its absence. *💛* So much has been said, rightly, about @tara.westover’s resilience in her memoir of (barely) being raised off the grid by religious extremists in #Educated. My takeaway: I am grateful for my mental health as a parent every single day. *💛* #asymmetry, by @lisahalliday is a straight-up intellectual puzzle of a novel that had me grateful to have been fathered by my dad...not a 40-years-older boyfriend! *💛* And, big lesson from @notoriousdrtib’s creepy/cool romp #SocialCreature (out next month): Don’t leave your kids alone in the city...you’re not done parenting just because they’re old enough to steep their own tea and source their own vintage and stay out all night!
Future site of a Brody boy wedding in 20 years or so.
You know what working moms need? Great lighting! Thanks, @nslexperience for that, and for your support of my work.
#Repost @nslexperience with @get_repost
25% of American mothers are going back to work at the 2 week mark, much earlier than experts recommend. Lauren Brody, author of THE FIFTH TRIMESTER, talks about what companies can do to improve the workplace culture for new parents. Click on link in bio for full #NSLbites video. #nslexperts #lightbulblearning
Is this not the best headline ever? Thank you so much, @newyorkfamily and @newyorkbabyshow (📸 the brilliant @anastasiagphoto )
My week of zero chill continues. #thefifthtrimester on page A3 of The New York Times. 🌼🌼🌼
“We’ll see!” Those were my mom’s favorite two words whenever we asked for...candy, a late bedtime, to borrow her earrings, any exception to a rule (and with four kids and four dogs and four cats, there were rules!). She knew that some “needs” were passing and for others, if we cared enough, we’d make a case and convince her. But, of course, now I know that the real “we’ll see” was “you’ll see, one day when you’re a mom too.” I’m so lucky to keep learning from the best of the best, with the biggest heart of all, my mom. Happy Mother’s Day to her, you, and all of us who’ve loved with both cuddles and “we’ll see’s.” (And PS: that blanket around us on yesterday’s blustery boat ride was made for me by my grandma, in my college colors! Wrapped in their love, always.)
Happpppy Mother’s Day, indeed!!!!! No chill, all thrill (you know I’m shocked when I start rhyming!). Thank you, @nytimes! 💛📰💛📰 cc: the brilliant writers @chimamanda_adichie and @oconnell.meaghan
In honor of #MaternalMentalHealth day, this is my favorite @nikkimcclure image. I bought this now-stained-and-tattered card in a gift shop in Washington State in 2007 before I was even pregnant. Ben and I had just spent a whole vacation dinner (and bottle of🍷) debating future baby names (Brody Brody? No!) * I’ve had the card pinned up at every work desk I’ve had ever since, through every single up and down and unknown of working motherhood. * It’s a leap, all of it. But we assess, we put on our snorkels, we let our tummies show, and we jump in. * Take care of yourself. Don’t hide the hard stuff. Talk about what scares you. And make something beautiful. 💛 (ps: There’s no question of “if” you need help. We all do and should ask for it at every turn. But if you are wondering if you have more than just the baby blues (🙋🏻♀️hi, that was me!), I recommend: @selenidotorg @themotherhoodcenter and @postpartumhelp for resources and guidance.)
Another video I did for @bigthinkers , just up today. 🔗 in biooooooo!