NYC-area friends, I am SO excited to be speaking at the @elliemoms app launch in Brooklyn two weeks from today. It’s open to the public and tickets are FREE (I never get to say those two things in the same post!). You just need to RSVP. Ellie is a genius and much-needed idea that will connect virtual mom groups neighborhood by neighborhood. I’ll be sharing hard-earned #thefifthtrimester negotiating tips for work, home, and beyond, because #AllMomsWork. Oh, and! There’s free five-minute consults from my friend @theparentingmentor too!
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You’re invited! We're hosting the ellie Williamsburg/Greenpoint LAUNCH PARTY at @WildWasMama on Monday, Dec 3rd at 7:30pm featuring Lauren Smith Brody, author of @TheFifthTrimester for a special talk on how #ALLMothersWork: How to Negotiate Like a Boss at Work, Home, and Beyond.
You'll also get to chat with Susan Groner from @TheParentingMentor who will be doing free mini consultations offering (genius!) parenting advice.
RSVP by clicking the "Get Tickets" link on our profile page! 📲🙌🏼
Three thoughts: 1) For a week, we’ve been eating dinner on just one corner of our dining table because of an ongoing game of Monopoly. Tonight, we finished, finally, with a Mommy win (whoops!), and my boys both shook my hand and said “good game.” Fair and right. 2) Meanwhile, all day, every outer borough (read: not majority white) friend I’ve asked has said that their voting lines were impossibly long due to ballot machines that didn’t work. 3) On a homework assignment tonight about the myth of Native Americans having “sold” Manhattan to the Dutch, Will remarked upon the lack of decent human beings, “just like there aren’t any now, either.” I’m watching the returns roll in, heartbroken by his words in my ear, but hopeful for our country’s future. We have a lot of repair work to do. #myfamilyvotes
Let’s do this, week. Two years ago, I dressed all in suffragette white and put on my Grandma’s coat in her memory and marched to the polls with my boys, so full of optimism that even bumping into Madonna with her daughter Lourdes (!) seemed like a blip in comparison. Tomorrow, we will go in just as optimistic but a lot more educated. About healthcare 🤰, about immigration 🗽🚪, about race and bias 👍🏿👍🏾👍🏽👍🏼👍🏻, and education 📓🎼🎨🎒, and gun reform 🔫💔, and paid leave🤱, and a woman’s right to choose ⚖️, and LGBTQIAA rights 👨👨👦👩👩👦, and freedom of the press 📜📰, and voter access🗳. I’ll quit it with the emojis and ask you this: **WHAT IS A MOTHER’S JOB IF NOT TO TEACH HER KIDS THAT THEIR EMPATHY CAN HAVE ACTUAL IMPACT?** Please, #VoteLikeaMother! And take a picture voting with your kids if you can (or have them pose with your “I voted” sticker later) and hashtag it #MyFamilyVotes. Need a last minute cram on what’s going to be on your ballot? Check out the nonpartisan Ballotpedia.org. #2018Midterms #PowertothePolls 💛
USE YOUR VOICE. Most of my audience here is moms... I don’t know what percentage are Jewish (I am). But I’ll bet we all have something that has made us feel “other” for no reason other than plain bigotry at some point. Please, speak up with every bit of privilege and rank you may have for those who don’t. That work, after all, is the very root of motherhood. (Image: @jbaumgardner; quote heard this morning on @nytimes The Daily.)
This year, more than ever, I’ve been buoyed by this man’s seemingly bottomless supply of optimism. As a kid, I’d swing and miss 1000 times in our driveway batting practice, and 1000 times I’d hear, “Good effort!” This past summer, my kids were rude to me, and when I finally lost my cool and let them have it, embarrassed that my dad had seen me fail, he pulled me aside and said, “good job...they needed you to be a strong mom like that.” When you’re someone who believes as deeply as my dad does in the inherent goodness of people, there’s always the risk of disappointment. He’s terribly disappointed in the state of our country right now, but that feeling is outpaced by his enormous hope and confidence and teeth-gritting, pink-pussy-hat-wearing, daily-sleepaway-camp-writing, chemo and radiation enduring, Mr. Rogers-documentary-recommending love of his family and his country. Happy birthday, Dad. I love you. We are lucky beyond lucky you’re ours.
🤗 Excited for this Tips by Trimester day with @wellroundedny! My panel is at 1pm, but come all day. I’ll be talking about the myth of balance (and the reality of being okay with that)! Link to tix in bio...and here’s my discount code for 25% off if you want to use it: VIP25 (please note that the discount doesn’t apply to the VIP or Bump Envy ticket). Hope to see you there! #thefifthtrimester #momfriends #newmom #backtowork #maternityleave
#ad #giveaway I love this picture...but not for the reasons you might think. It was taken on one of my last days of #maternityleave with Teddy. I’d planned a little photo shoot in the park. Only, on the day of, my baby woke up with a bald spot, my big guy would NOT smile, and even the sleeves (!) of my t-shirt were tight. But when I look at this image now, I see a woman who is about to learn a LOT about resetting her expectations and finding meaning in the mess. Today, I’m excited to share my top six #backtowork tips in a takeover at @playtexbaby Come over and check it out! Oh, and!! There’s a contest! Comment on the post on their page for a chance to win a newborn giveaway of an awesome baby bottle set plus a Diaper Genie! #thefifthtrimester #workingmom #maternityleave #backtowork 📸 @nancyborowick
Today, this boy painstakingly hand wrote a “good news” announcement for his weekly school assembly thanking two sweet kids who’d helped him when he fell on the playground. As he was writing it— a process that took 20 minutes letter by letter—two kind school cafeteria servers passed by with a leftover cart of food and offered him a cookie. So he added them to his “good news” too...only we didn’t know their names...so he asked our wonderful school office assistant who looked them up in the yearbook. So she got a “good news” thank you too! I hope his whole life is this charmed... and that he stays this grateful for everything good that comes his way. This little light of mine likes to shine on other people. ❤️
Portrait of two parents whose kids made it through the corn maze without crying or being carried for the first time ever this year! 🙌🌽✌️
Last week’s whirlwind work travel was so worth it...I took some risks on stage (because, you know, audience of 500...why not?) and learned so much that makes me more convinced than ever that these sexist, unfair times we are living in are a real opportunity to make *permanent* change via our most important life’s work, ⭐️our children⭐️.
Our 💯 topic: “Raising Kids Who Value Equality.” Here’s what we shared and learned: 1️⃣ Have “mature” conversations (about race, gender, inequality, and all the ugly stuff in the news) *before* you think your kids are ready for it. They are. And it’s a real opportunity to get in there with the perspective and warmth of a mother’s love. 2️⃣ Read what your kids are reading 📚, watch what they’re watching 📺, play the video games 🎮right alongside them. Then, if you don’t like the messages they’re getting from those forms of media, use that as a way in to talk about this stuff, not just ban it. 3️⃣ Lead by example. Is your own circle of friends and influence too narrow? Branch out (and I say this fully aware that our panel was 🙋🏻♀️🙋🏼♀️🙋🏻♀️🙋🏾♂️...we dug in our conversation to find differences that were less visible since we were probably too alike). 4️⃣ Just as you bring your whole self to work, bring your work self home. Tell your kids about the grown up issues of equality you face at work: pay gap, hiring committees. Even little little kids can get something out of understanding Mommy’s day. 5️⃣ Model equality in your partnership at home. Ask your partner to take parental leave, don’t gatekeep, split up morning and evening duties. Kids really notice! And this becomes their sense of what’s normal. 6️⃣ Don’t ignore or quash questions about the differences your children notice around them. ♿️💰⛪️🕌🗺👨👨👦👩👧Praise them for noticing and caring and help them understand how they can learn from people who are different from them and use whatever privilege they may have to make things more fair. 💛
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Thank you to @mindrnyc @sarahluxlee @kristyawallace from @ellevate_ntwk , Terence Goods, Amanda Greenspon, @notsafeformomgroup, @thefiscalfemme @wilbacardi @shesummit @claudiachanwagner
I’d like the think that that beam of light 💫 is the glow of knowing it’ll be easier when she does this one day. #fifthtrimesterbaby 💛 check out @thereturnityproject to share your experience returning to work...and learn from other women’s.
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My daughter Liv enjoying our copy of The Fifth Trimester ❤️ I recommend this book to all of my Mom friends before they return to work. It’s a real, honest playbook on the reality of what it’s like to return to work with some tips that will make you feel more prepared. This book was like therapy to me and Lauren Brody Smith’s passion for helping other moms shows throughout each chapter! @thefifthtrimester
Me: “I gave birth to you, so every year, I expect at least this one photo—even with all of your friends walking by—in return.
Them: “Also, a chocolate croissant after school?”
Happy first day!! 🙌📓⭐️⭐️