Portrait of two parents whose kids made it through the corn maze without crying or being carried for the first time ever this year! 🙌🌽✌️
Last week’s whirlwind work travel was so worth it...I took some risks on stage (because, you know, audience of 500...why not?) and learned so much that makes me more convinced than ever that these sexist, unfair times we are living in are a real opportunity to make *permanent* change via our most important life’s work, ⭐️our children⭐️.
Our 💯 topic: “Raising Kids Who Value Equality.” Here’s what we shared and learned: 1️⃣ Have “mature” conversations (about race, gender, inequality, and all the ugly stuff in the news) *before* you think your kids are ready for it. They are. And it’s a real opportunity to get in there with the perspective and warmth of a mother’s love. 2️⃣ Read what your kids are reading 📚, watch what they’re watching 📺, play the video games 🎮right alongside them. Then, if you don’t like the messages they’re getting from those forms of media, use that as a way in to talk about this stuff, not just ban it. 3️⃣ Lead by example. Is your own circle of friends and influence too narrow? Branch out (and I say this fully aware that our panel was 🙋🏻♀️🙋🏼♀️🙋🏻♀️🙋🏾♂️...we dug in our conversation to find differences that were less visible since we were probably too alike). 4️⃣ Just as you bring your whole self to work, bring your work self home. Tell your kids about the grown up issues of equality you face at work: pay gap, hiring committees. Even little little kids can get something out of understanding Mommy’s day. 5️⃣ Model equality in your partnership at home. Ask your partner to take parental leave, don’t gatekeep, split up morning and evening duties. Kids really notice! And this becomes their sense of what’s normal. 6️⃣ Don’t ignore or quash questions about the differences your children notice around them. ♿️💰⛪️🕌🗺👨👨👦👩👧Praise them for noticing and caring and help them understand how they can learn from people who are different from them and use whatever privilege they may have to make things more fair. 💛
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Thank you to @mindrnyc @sarahluxlee @kristyawallace from @ellevate_ntwk , Terence Goods, Amanda Greenspon, @notsafeformomgroup, @thefiscalfemme @wilbacardi @shesummit @claudiachanwagner
I’d like the think that that beam of light 💫 is the glow of knowing it’ll be easier when she does this one day. #fifthtrimesterbaby 💛 check out @thereturnityproject to share your experience returning to work...and learn from other women’s.
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My daughter Liv enjoying our copy of The Fifth Trimester ❤️ I recommend this book to all of my Mom friends before they return to work. It’s a real, honest playbook on the reality of what it’s like to return to work with some tips that will make you feel more prepared. This book was like therapy to me and Lauren Brody Smith’s passion for helping other moms shows throughout each chapter! @thefifthtrimester
Me: “I gave birth to you, so every year, I expect at least this one photo—even with all of your friends walking by—in return.
Them: “Also, a chocolate croissant after school?”
Happy first day!! 🙌📓⭐️⭐️
My boys of summer ⛱
🎉🎉What I did with my summer vacation. 😂 Big happy announcement! I have a new (part time, flex location 💪) role as the editorial director of @famxcn #FAM x Condé Nast. (💛And yes I’m absolutely still doing #thefifthtrimester full speed ahead too — this fall is going to be insane, so obviously I’m eating all of the🍦on Long Island this week to prepare! 💛) Scroll through for our joyous, inclusive mission and a peek at last week’s newsletter. It’s been SO much fun to get this thing started. You can sign up now (www.famxcn.com) to get tomorrow’s. And follow our social! Just like your littles, we are small but mighty...and growing. 👨👩👧👦🤰👨👨👧👦🤱👩👩👧👦👨👧👩👦(🤹♀️☕️!)
Happy birthday to the love of my life and the hero of every tree and chapter. @zekebrody
I said it and I meant it and I’m here to represent it. Thanks for supporting pumping moms, @belabumbum! 💛 #thefifthtrimester #pumpingmom #workingmom #normalizebreastfeeding
My small contribution to the incredible outpouring of #worldbreastfeedingweek posts isn’t a picture of me breastfeeding. I don’t think I have any! (Though these days, I’d feel pure prempathy — that’s pride + empathy — for making it though that cracked/blistered/overscheduled/understocked nursing-pumping mess.) So instead, I give you two of my favorite photos of my guys. Looking at these now, I realize that this was around the time I figured out that with every drop of parenting, I was teaching them how to be parents one day too. 💛🤱💛🤱 #normalizebreastfeeding #pumpingmom #backtowork #fedisbest #thefifthtrimester #workingmom
New development: I’ve become a mom who now *always* gets her hair wet. Because Will is going to sleepaway camp this weekend, and Teddy cleared the table tonight like a big guy, and the sky was really blue, and summer (and life) is too, too short. #thefifthtrimester #momduties #entrepreneurlife
Look what they made us do. (Look what we made them do.) #taylorswift #firstconcert
🎉 Read and cheer, mom friends!! (And high five @serenawilliams for choosing a true partner.) This is from @alexisohanian’s post about his op ed for @thehill, about paid family leave: “I look forward to the day when feeding my child in public is...just a dad doing dad things....Tech can lead by example, but it’s going to take more people (especially men) taking advantage of parental leave plans and normalizing dad life. Let’s change the culture around fatherhood; it’s a great honor and even greater responsibility.” **
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In America, 1 in 4 mothers return to work within two weeks of giving birth. That’s not good for our country, our kids, or our health.
The US Senate held a hearing on paid family leave and I wrote this op-ed for @TheHill because all American children and families deserve better. Link in bio.
As an industry, tech can lead by example, but it’s going to take more people (especially men) taking advantage of parental leave plans and normalizing dad life. Let’s change the culture around fatherhood; it’s a great honor and even greater responsibility.
Real men don’t run from it.